For me there should not be an age range difference within which people are permitted to marry. Growing up in Nigeria, I have witnessed many marriages where the age gap between husband and wife was wide, yet the relationship was peaceful and successful. One story that always comes to mind is that of actress Regina Daniels. She was just in her early twenties when she married Ned Nwoko, a man in his sixties. The internet went wild at the time, with people calling her names and saying the marriage was doomed to fail. But years later, they are still together, raising two children and living happily. Whenever I think about that, I realize that marriage is not about what people say; it is about what the two individuals want for themselves.
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Personally, I do not see anything wrong in marrying someone ten years older than me. In fact, I would prefer that. To me, age difference is not the key factor in marriage. What matters most is peace of mind, happiness, and a true sense of fulfillment. I have seen couples who were almost the same age but still could not make their marriage work. On the other hand, I have also seen couples with wide age gaps who are still standing strong together. This makes me believe that age is not the foundation of marriage.
I know that for many women, dating or marrying a younger man is not something they would consider. I feel the same way sometimes. Maybe it is because of the idea of submission in marriage, which makes it difficult for a woman to respect a man younger than her. In our culture, respect is deeply tied to age, and people expect the man to be older. Still, I cannot deny that there are successful examples where even this has worked out.
One example I always remember is Nigerian singer Peter Okoye of P-Square. He married a woman older than him, and at first people talked and criticized him. But today, their marriage is strong, their children are growing beautifully, and he has proven that love is bigger than age. Interestingly, his twin brother Paul married someone closer to his age, and people praised him at the time. Yet, that marriage eventually ended, while the one everyone doubted is still standing. For me, this shows clearly that peace of mind and true love are what sustain a marriage, not the age difference.
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If I am being honest, I would rather marry a man who gives me joy, even if he is much older, than marry someone close to my age who makes life difficult. Life is already filled with enough challenges, so I believe marriage should be a safe place where one finds comfort and support. Age will not cook food, age will not solve problems, and age will not bring happiness. What really matters is understanding, determination to make things work, and the love that exists between two people.
So, if a law were to be made that people can only marry within a fixed age bracket, I think it would only bring chaos. People would feel trapped, love stories would be cut short, and marriages would become more about pleasing society than finding true happiness. For me, love should remain a matter of choice, not a calculation of numbers.
I believe strongly that age is just a number. If two people truly love and understand each other, then they should be free to marry, no matter the years between them. After all, it is not society that will live inside that marriage it is the two people involved.
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