Why I Feel Marriage Talk Is Overhyped.

Hi everyone, Happy Weekend, I'm glad to welcome you to my blog, so for the Hive Ghana prompt this week I will be choosing to talk about something people have different opinions on, and for real, because we are different individual with different beliefs ,so it's normal that there are so many talks regarding some particular kind of topic. So I will be focusing on *Marriage*. So see honestly, I feel like people just put way too much pressure on this marriage thing, like it is the ultimate life achievement, you now see everywhere you turn, it is always marriage this, marriage that, etc, Especially here in this our Nigeria, well I can't say about other countries, see once you hit a certain age, you start hearing all kinds of questions like, when are we coming to eat rice? or Do you want to stay in your father’s house forever?, omo.... Sometimes it is not even funny because the pressure just piles up on someone who probably has other plans in mind.  See me I don’t think marriage should be treated like it is the one and only thing that defines a person life, Like yes, it is beautiful when two people who love each other come together and build something great, but at the same time, it is not the only thing life has to offer, for real.... l have seen people rush into it because of pressure, and at the end of the day, the whole thing crumbles down, then the same people that were pushing you to marry will be the ones gossiping when things go wrong, Omo, isn’t that double wahala already? Me, I just believe marriage should be based on readiness, genuine love, and understanding, not because society is shouting in your ear, If you are not mentally, emotionally, and even financially ready, what are you doing rushing into it then? Because last last, it is not just about wearing white gown and snapping pictures for Instagram and tiktok, In fact It is about living with that person every single day and making things work. And see another thing is that people make marriage seem like it is the solution to all problems, like once you marry, automatically everything in your life will balance, but abeg, that is all a lie, if you don’t already have a sense of who you are, or if you are not happy with yourself, marriage will not suddenly give you peace in any way, In fact, it might even expose more issues because you are now sharing your space and your life with another person. I have also noticed how marriage is placed differently for men and women, for women, once you are not married by a certain age, it is like the society already writes your name off, but you see for men, they can marry whenever, and nobody will say anything to them, that double standard no too make sense in any way, Like why can’t people just let individuals live their lives and make their own decisions about when and if they even want to marry? See just don’t get me wrong, I am not that I am against marriage at all, I actually admire couples who are happy and thriving together, but what I am saying is marriage should be a personal choice, not society project, It should not be made into this mountain of pressure that steals someone's joy or makes them feel like they are incomplete. So yeah, if there is one thing I think people should stop making such a big deal out of, it is marriage, like get to respect people’s choices, If someone wants to marry, fine. If someone does not, it's also fine, Life has plenty ways to be fulfilling , marriage is just one of them not a necessity. _{*Image is Generated With Meta AI*}