We humans all pass through pains and hurt in one way or the other. People hurt us, disappoint us and some people even break us but no matter how hurt or broken we are, we should not let the pain and hurt define who we are or who we become.
I remember growing up, while I was in secondary school. Prefect were chosen and our head girl and boy made a speech as usual. What the head girl said really stuck with me and I know I can never forget it, I might not remember everything the way she said it. She said and I quote: I promise to work with my fellow prefects to bring a change and I promise that the pains that was inflicted on us by previous seniors won't be passed onto our juniors. This has stayed with me till today and it really shaped my mindset about these things.
Most people are fond of passing agreession, pain and hurt to others around them. This is very common. It might not be typical example of the prompt in question but it's almost the same thing. Some people when they are hurt from something that happened recently to them and they can't hurt that back they tend to transfer that hurt to people around them.
If someone hurts you unintentionally because of a past hurt that was inflicted on them, such person should be forgiven because the person didn't mean to but that's if the person is willing. But when someone with clear eyes and conscience hurts another because of a past hurt then the person should be held accountable for his or her actions and choices.
We need to try to heal from past trauma, hurt and pains. We shouldn't try to pass it on to others, we can speak to professionals for help, we can also go through therapy. We must learn to heal and deal with our past and not bleed onto others who didn't cause us pain or hurt. We should try as much as we can to avoid passing pain and hurt to others. We can choose not to hurt others if we want to.
All I am saying is that we all deserve peace and kindness. We can't control how people treat us but we can control how we treat others. Let us break the cycle of pain and give love and understanding to others which we once needed. We should noose to love and grow and not repeating the same cycle of pain that we passed through.
This is my response to @hivelearners community prompt for this week's episode one which asks: If someone gets hurt and then in the nearest future, the same person hurts someone else as a direct result of the initial pain inflicted upon them, can they be held accountable for it? What do you have to say about people who pass on trauma from past experiences to those around them? Is there a way that such an act can ever forgiven?
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