hello hivers! Im writing this post to air my idea on forgiveness. so forgive and forget huh that phrase pops up all the time like some kind of magic fix for when someone hurts you but is it really a package deal can you have one without the other it’s something i’ve been chewing on lately especially after a rough patch with a friend
forgiveness feels like letting go of that heavy grudge you’ve been carrying around like dropping a backpack full of rocks after a long hike it’s personal you decide to stop wishing bad things on them and maybe even feel a bit lighter inside experts say it can ease stress and bring some peace to your mind but forgetting that’s a whole different beast our brains don’t just erase stuff like a wipe on a chalkboard especially when it’s something that stung deep some folks say you don’t need to forget to forgive it’s more about accepting what happened and not letting it run your life anymore like a parent forgiving a kid for a dumb mistake but still remembering it to keep an eye out next time it makes sense right you let go of the anger but the memory sticks around as a lesson others though they swear by the full forgive and forget deal they think if you’re still replaying the hurt in your head you haven’t really moved on maybe forgetting doesn’t mean wiping it out completely but softening it over time like how therapy can help dull those sharp edges but let’s be real is that even doable our minds love to hold onto the big stuff especially the painful bits culture loves painting this picture where you forgive forget and ride off into the sunset all better but life’s messier than that sometimes you can’t just flip a switch maybe it’s more about forgiving as a slow journey and letting the memory fade bit by bit if it ever does
for me it’s all about what works you might forgive and still remember or maybe forgetting helps you heal more it’s different for everyone the goal though is finding that sweet spot where you feel at peace without beating yourself up over some perfect standard so whether it’s together or apart forgive and forget it’s the path to feeling whole again
Thanks for reading, i hope you enjoyed my post. Image credit: GPT