Recognizing and caring for others is crucial for a healthy social life. Sometimes I forget all that, just being busy with work and only thinking about myself and my family. While others around me, even my neighbors, don't concern me. I never chat with them and I never care about my neighbors' conditions. Perhaps I'm a very apathetic person who only thinks about myself and never opens up to others.  [Source](https://pixabay.com/id/vectors/menyapa-angkat-tangan-halo-senyum-7464474/) Even though I wasn't like this when I was a teenager, I cared deeply about my friends and neighbors. I felt this change after I got married and took on the greater responsibility of my family and work. Initially, I rarely socialized with my old friends and neighbors, so over time, I felt like everything was so foreign to me, making it very difficult for me to start being friendly and caring again. I realize that none of this is good, but what I feel now is calmer, and I spend more time at work and at home. I don't chat with friends or neighbors almost every day. My neighbors, if I see them while walking, I just smile and say hello, then walk away. I feel reluctant to chat with them. I don't know what has gotten into my head. I only talk to them when necessary, and I never joke or chat anymore. I realize this is not good and goes against the rules of good society. I also realize that the first people to help my family in a disaster are my neighbors, not my distant relatives, not the firefighters, or the police. But why does this happen? I don't know what exactly is causing me to become less sociable with friends and neighbors. I try to be friendlier by smiling more with my neighbors and friends. Even though I don't have time to chat much with them, at least I can make them feel comfortable, willing to be friends, and care about me and my family. This kind of thing actually happens a lot to those who live in cities. They are too busy with work to relax or even socialize with their neighbors. Now I'm starting to realize how bored I am with the constant workload, and I feel like I want to spend more time relaxing with friends. My family and neighbors care for each other, understand each other, and respect each other. However, my family's finances require me to work harder, and I have no time to rest, let alone hang out with friends. You can imagine how boring my life is: work, work, and work. So far, I haven't cared about my friends and neighbors. Maybe if I go far out of town, where I might have to stay overnight for a few days, there won't be any neighbors I can contact to check on my house while I'm gone. However, I ask my in-laws or my nephew to keep the house safe. In this context, I'm not angry or hostile toward my neighbors, but I don't have time to care about them, let alone socialize with them, because I'm a quiet person. However, I realize this isn't good for me or my family. _{**who is @yuliadi** Yuliadi is a 38-year-old nurse living in Indonesia. Since discovering Hive, I've been more active on my blog and writing original content every day. My writing is in Indonesian, translated using Google Translate. My blog is my life. [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/share/1Fwm25WtBZ/) [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/yuliadilek?igsh=cXJraW10MnN4NHY3) [YouTube](https://youtube.com/@keluargabgjuli349?si=efn7Sp5Kr7nOT-eV)}