Sometimes friendships can be very complex. But they can be very simple with no stress, and that is the type I like. I hate mental strain in the name of friendship. That is why one of my rules is to keep my close friend circle as small and necessary as possible, because the more humans you have in your life, the more problems you have. If you sit down and check it, you would realize it's a straight-up fact. And I don't even blame anyone for the problems because whatever friendship I decide to keep, I know I am an adult and don't need anyone to tell me that humans are complicated, and any problem I decide to put up with in the name of friendship would be my choice.
When it comes to the extent friendship can reach, I try my best to stay strict with the boundaries I set. Because I personally think friendship should be a reason to go through the misery of any kind. I am the kind of person who, when a friend starts crossing the boundaries I have set in the relationship, most times I give a warning the first time. And if the breach is repeated, I will start dissolving the friendship either gradually or as soon as possible. No matter what I decide, what I try not to do is shift my boundaries in the name of friendship.
When it comes to ideals and beliefs, humans have so many different ones. And I personally can end a friendship because of certain beliefs and ideals. There are just some things you don't have to endure because they would just mess you up. Of course, there is always going to be some discord or disagreements because you can't control anyone as that wouldn't be friendship. So we have to be open to and tolerate different ideas and opinions to a certain extent, but once they can't be overlooked they can't be overlooked.
I can remember a girl I met in school. There was a little friendship building up between us, but once I noticed something, I had to end it quickly. The girl had this belief or ideal that women are weak. Every time around, she felt like she believed women are irrelevant, and I sincerely don't get how she ended up like that because she is a woman too.
I first started noticing it when she asked me for movies one day. I was transferring movies to her phone, and before I selected any movies to transfer and she just kept on rejecting movies with lead actresses, and at some point, she even made it so obvious by asking me if there were many female characters in the movie and if there were, she would reject it. I started asking her questions, and the conversation kept getting deep, even when she told me she thought feminism was stupid and fake. I would say she got many things wrong, including the true meaning of feminism. But when I realized there was nothing I could do to make her at least tone it down a little, and she just blindly followed her belief, not wanting to even listen, I gave up.
I ended the friendship quietly and quickly because there was no way I could hang around her without it affecting me in one way or the other, even my mind would be affected. If I could keep the friendship without her ideals and opinions affecting me, then I would've, but as long as it does, of course, I will end it.
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