**Hola a todos, otra vez por aquí 🤗**
Hace bastante que no escribo en Hive ni en la comunidad @holos-lotus . No es porque no quisiera, sino por problemas de salud y personales que me han mantenido bastante ocupada y, la verdad, con poca energía para escribir. Pero hoy, que creo que es el último día de la iniciativa que planteó @damarysvibra, se me antojó sentarme a escribir y espero hacerlo a tiempo.
Siempre he sido una persona complicada emocionalmente. Durante mucho tiempo sentí que cómo me sentía dependía de los demás: si alguien me hacía daño, si alguien no me valoraba, si alguien decía algo que no me gustaba. Yo pensaba que los problemas, los malestares y hasta la sensación de frustración eran culpa de lo que pasaba afuera. Sin embargo, año tras año, analizando mi vida y mis experiencias, he empezado a darme cuenta de algo importante: **la responsabilidad de cómo me siento, de mi bienestar y de mis decisiones, en gran parte, depende de mí misma**.
Por mucho tiempo era más fácil culpar a los demás. Decía cosas como “si tal persona no hubiera hecho esto, yo no estaría así” o “esto me pasa por culpa de otros”. Y aunque esas cosas pueden haber influido, la realidad es que yo elegía cómo reaccionar, cómo vivir cada situación y cómo dejar que me afectara. Descubrir esto no fue algo que pasó de un día para otro; es un aprendizaje que todavía sigue, porque no es fácil reconocer que gran parte de nuestra vida emocional está en nuestras manos.
Respondiendo a las preguntas de la iniciativa:
* **¿He superado la etapa de responsabilizar a otros por lo que siento, pienso o hago?** Creo que sí, hasta cierto punto. No al 100%, pero sí he avanzado bastante. Cada vez más entiendo que soy yo quien decide cómo reaccionar, cómo enfrentar los problemas y cómo tomar control de mi vida emocional. No puedo evitar que otros hagan cosas, pero sí puedo decidir cómo me afectan.
* **¿Asumo las consecuencias de mis decisiones y sigo adelante con todo lo que ello conlleva?** Sí, y no siempre ha sido fácil. He tomado decisiones malas, he cometido errores y, claro, hay momentos en que desearía poder volver el tiempo atrás y cambiar cosas. Pero no se puede. Lo que sí puedo hacer es aprender de mis errores, aceptar lo que hice y seguir adelante, intentando hacerlo mejor la próxima vez.
Creo que asumir esta responsabilidad es un proceso que no termina nunca, y que a veces es incómodo o doloroso. A veces implica mirar de frente nuestros propios errores y limitaciones, reconocer que fuimos nosotros quienes dejamos que ciertas situaciones nos afectaran más de lo que deberían y decidir cambiar. Pero también es liberador, porque cuando tomamos la responsabilidad de nuestra vida, dejamos de esperar que otros nos arreglen o nos salven, y empezamos a construir nuestra propia paz y bienestar.
Además, he aprendido que la responsabilidad no es solo con nuestras emociones, sino también con nuestro cuerpo, nuestra salud y nuestro tiempo. Elegir cuidarnos, descansar, poner límites, organizarnos y dedicar tiempo a lo que nos hace bien también forma parte de ser responsables con nosotras mismas. No se trata de sacrificarse hasta agotarse, sino de actuar conscientemente, priorizar lo que necesitamos y decidir cómo queremos vivir.
Así que aquí estoy, compartiendo esto con ustedes, recordándome a mí misma y a quien quiera leerlo que **pa’lante es pa’allá**. La única manera de avanzar es tomando responsabilidad de nuestra propia vida, de nuestros pensamientos, emociones y decisiones, y aprendiendo a seguir adelante con todo lo que eso implica.
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 [](https://pixabay.com/es/illustrations/mochilero-la-carretera-caminar-7628303/) **Hello everyone, back here again 🤗** It’s been quite a while since I last wrote on Hive or in the @holos-lotus community. Not because I didn’t want to, but due to health and personal issues that have kept me quite busy and, honestly, with little energy to write. But today, since I think it’s the last day of the initiative proposed by @damarysvibra, I felt like sitting down to write, and I hope I manage to do it in time. I’ve always been an emotionally complicated person. For a long time, I felt that how I felt depended on others: if someone hurt me, if someone didn’t value me, or if someone said something I didn’t like. I used to think that problems, discomforts, and even feelings of frustration were caused by what happened outside. However, year after year, analyzing my life and experiences, I’ve started to realize something important: **the responsibility for how I feel, for my well-being, and for my decisions largely depends on me**. For a long time, it was easier to blame others. I would say things like, “If that person hadn’t done this, I wouldn’t feel this way” or “This is happening because of others.” And while those things may have influenced me, the truth is that I chose how to react, how to live each situation, and how to let it affect me. Discovering this didn’t happen overnight; it’s an ongoing learning process because it’s not easy to recognize that a big part of our emotional life is in our own hands. Answering the questions from the initiative: * **Have I moved past the stage of blaming others for how I feel, think, or act?** I think I have, to some extent. Not 100%, but I’ve made a lot of progress. I increasingly understand that I am the one who decides how to react, how to face problems, and how to take control of my emotional life. I can’t prevent others from doing things, but I can decide how they affect me. * **Do I take responsibility for my decisions and move forward with everything that entails?** Yes, and it hasn’t always been easy. I’ve made bad decisions, I’ve made mistakes, and of course, there are moments when I wish I could go back in time and change things. But we can’t. What I *can* do is learn from my mistakes, accept what I did, and move forward, trying to do better next time. I believe that taking responsibility is a process that never really ends, and sometimes it can be uncomfortable or painful. Sometimes it means facing our own mistakes and limitations, recognizing that we allowed certain situations to affect us more than they should have, and deciding to change. But it’s also liberating because when we take responsibility for our lives, we stop waiting for others to fix or save us, and we start building our own peace and well-being. I’ve also learned that responsibility isn’t only about our emotions, but also about our body, our health, and our time. Choosing to take care of ourselves, rest, set boundaries, organize our life, and dedicate time to things that make us feel good is also part of being responsible for ourselves. It’s not about sacrificing until we’re exhausted, but about acting consciously, prioritizing what we need, and deciding how we want to live. So here I am, sharing this with all of you, reminding myself and anyone who reads it that **pa’lante es pa’allá**. The only way to move forward is by taking responsibility for our own lives, for our thoughts, emotions, and decisions, and learning to keep going with everything that entails.
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 [](https://pixabay.com/es/illustrations/mochilero-la-carretera-caminar-7628303/) **Hello everyone, back here again 🤗** It’s been quite a while since I last wrote on Hive or in the @holos-lotus community. Not because I didn’t want to, but due to health and personal issues that have kept me quite busy and, honestly, with little energy to write. But today, since I think it’s the last day of the initiative proposed by @damarysvibra, I felt like sitting down to write, and I hope I manage to do it in time. I’ve always been an emotionally complicated person. For a long time, I felt that how I felt depended on others: if someone hurt me, if someone didn’t value me, or if someone said something I didn’t like. I used to think that problems, discomforts, and even feelings of frustration were caused by what happened outside. However, year after year, analyzing my life and experiences, I’ve started to realize something important: **the responsibility for how I feel, for my well-being, and for my decisions largely depends on me**. For a long time, it was easier to blame others. I would say things like, “If that person hadn’t done this, I wouldn’t feel this way” or “This is happening because of others.” And while those things may have influenced me, the truth is that I chose how to react, how to live each situation, and how to let it affect me. Discovering this didn’t happen overnight; it’s an ongoing learning process because it’s not easy to recognize that a big part of our emotional life is in our own hands. Answering the questions from the initiative: * **Have I moved past the stage of blaming others for how I feel, think, or act?** I think I have, to some extent. Not 100%, but I’ve made a lot of progress. I increasingly understand that I am the one who decides how to react, how to face problems, and how to take control of my emotional life. I can’t prevent others from doing things, but I can decide how they affect me. * **Do I take responsibility for my decisions and move forward with everything that entails?** Yes, and it hasn’t always been easy. I’ve made bad decisions, I’ve made mistakes, and of course, there are moments when I wish I could go back in time and change things. But we can’t. What I *can* do is learn from my mistakes, accept what I did, and move forward, trying to do better next time. I believe that taking responsibility is a process that never really ends, and sometimes it can be uncomfortable or painful. Sometimes it means facing our own mistakes and limitations, recognizing that we allowed certain situations to affect us more than they should have, and deciding to change. But it’s also liberating because when we take responsibility for our lives, we stop waiting for others to fix or save us, and we start building our own peace and well-being. I’ve also learned that responsibility isn’t only about our emotions, but also about our body, our health, and our time. Choosing to take care of ourselves, rest, set boundaries, organize our life, and dedicate time to things that make us feel good is also part of being responsible for ourselves. It’s not about sacrificing until we’re exhausted, but about acting consciously, prioritizing what we need, and deciding how we want to live. So here I am, sharing this with all of you, reminding myself and anyone who reads it that **pa’lante es pa’allá**. The only way to move forward is by taking responsibility for our own lives, for our thoughts, emotions, and decisions, and learning to keep going with everything that entails.
