The reason is very simple: it is the mother who should give love, protect, cuddle her children in her arms, and dry their tears when they are afraid. But that's another story. That's how it should be, but often it isn't, even if some people don't believe it. And when that happens, oh dear, Mom! Another factor that influences this is the trauma they carry from childhood and the fact that they copy the patterns of their parents and how they were raised, treating their children in the same way. Some say, “I was raised that way and nothing happened to me.” But this is false; they are repeating wrong attitudes and do not dare to break the toxic cycles of their childhood. I don't understand how some parents hurt their children, both physically and verbally. I really can't wrap my head around it. Most people know it is counterproductive, but they insist on raising their children with bad language, shouting, hitting, and other forms of abuse. The most important thing is respect, which allows children to feel understood and trusted. On this topic, María José Roldán published an article on www.guiainfantil.com entitled: **“Positive parenting - How to educate through good treatment,”** in which she states:

Educating with respect does not mean letting children do whatever they want. It means setting boundaries respectfully without being abusive or mistreating them. It means making it clear that you love them and that they are your priority. Above all, it means not trying to fill the gaps by buying them off with money or gifts. In my journey through life, I have met people who have become great friends. I still remember them fondly. We meet on the road, and it seems like yesterday that we saw each other. I have experiences with them and also their stories that touched my soul and squeezed my heart. I hope that, wherever they are, they have managed to heal their wounds. They loved their parents and gave them support, everything they needed, but there was a wall that separated them. They said that demanding respect because they were their parents and constantly reminding them that they were not their friends or confidants prevented them from expressing their feelings and having a loving relationship. I believe that parents should not say this to their children because it goes without saying. Even though some experts say that parents cannot be friends with their children, I do not agree with this idea. Maybe they know a lot, but they don't put themselves in the shoes of parents, let alone children. They talk and talk... and blah, blah, blah... I'm no expert, but what I do know, my friends and fellow parents at #Motherhood, is that I've seen many seek understanding and comfort for the lack of love and abuse they suffered from those who shouldn't have hurt them, and they lost themselves in the world of drugs. I am in favor of positive parenting with love and setting boundaries with respect.

Feeling understood and loved fosters self-esteem, and when people love themselves, they do not accept abuse or manipulation, which is fundamental for human beings. They tend to be more empathetic toward the world around them. Parents, strengthen bonds of love and respect with your children. Here are a few tips: • Instill respectful behavior in your home, without disrespect or yelling. • Set an example. • Plan family activities such as watching a movie, playing outdoors and in contact with nature, reading club, among others. # ## "Above all, your children need you to love them for who they are, not to spend all your time trying to correct them.” (Bill Ayers)  # ## “Being a parent isn't about telling your child what to do when they misbehave. Being a parent is about providing the conditions for them to fully develop their human potential.” ( Gordon Neufeld)      [“Link”]( https://mentalhealthcenterkids.com/blogs/articles/parenting-quotes )