Hello everyone. Happy weekend! 🙂
Throughout our lives, we constantly strive to achieve something. I have always thought that my biggest achievements will be related to my career, but in the last 5 years, my attitude on this issue has changed. That is what I will share with you today and it relates to the topic " biggest achievement".
This is my entry for the #weekend-engagement, initiated by @galenkp.
There is something more than having a good job, decent salary, nice apartment, car, enough money for food, pleasures, clothes, and traveling. There is something more than having a child. That "more" refers to having two or more children.
A few years ago I was pretty sure that I don't want one more child. I was satisfied with my son. We were spending a great time together and we became very connected. I thought that there is nothing bad about it to have just one child, even though everybody was telling me that it is a little bit selfish and that my husband and I should have one more child, because of our son's happiness in the future. I didn’t want to go through pregnancy and childbirth again, but on the other hand, I felt a guilty conscience because of my son who will not have a brother or sister.
Dilemma
We were in dilemma all the time. That dilemma was: "Should we have another child or not?" We repeated that sentence so many times during the day. Every day. My son never talked about having a sister or brother but gradually I started to notice that he was bored alone. One day on our vacation, I was thinking a lot about my dilemma. I was looking at kids outside, brothers and sisters how they hug each other and my dilemma became my obsession. I started to think about the days in the future when my son will not have company in his room and his life, someone with who he could share secrets, thoughts... On the other hand, I knew that one day he will have his own family and maybe he will not feel the lack of a brother or sister.
Decision
One day when I was with my son on the beach, I decided to give him an opportunity to have a brother or sister.
I was looking at him. He was alone and parents are boring sometimes. I felt that it was a good decision.
When she was born...
My son finally got a sister. When she was born I realized that I would have made the biggest mistake if I decided not to have more children. They are together all the time. He is very happy and expresses positive emotions towards her. He likes to hold her hand. Hand in hand is a very emotional moment. It symbolizes togetherness, support, and love. When you have someone to hold your hand, you can consider that you are a happy person. My kids taught me many things and they are my biggest achievement.
And when I saw my son put on her shoes, I couldn't believe that one day I had a dilemma.
Thank you very much for reading.
The images and writing are original and mine.
Greetings!
Jelena