I am not going to lie all last week I felt unbelievable sad and heart broken!
Don’t worry, I am not going to bore you with every detail....
I got message last week that my friend died in car accident and all week I just couldn’t stop thinking and questioning everything about life.
I made myself tired from thinking, I didn’t go gym, I was angry and sad, than angry again...you can probably imagine😔
Today I am in much better place and I can finally think straight.
How did I make myself feel better?
Years ago I learnt to ignore my emotions which never really helped but this year I found that actually observing emotions and exploring about them helps me to heal quicker!
I practiced self compassion during my meditation every day for 20min and this really helped me!
Self compassion is simply talking to inner self just as kind as we do to our best friends or people we love. Sometimes it’s like talking softly to a child. Soft talk is so soothing which some how makes it easier to understand that suffering, failure and imperfections are the part of the life.
Self compassion is a very powerful tool to stop negative self talk and accept things as they are at the moment.
When it comes to food.....
We all know that emotions can drive us to a food land so this week all I did was pausing every time I was about to eat and asked myself?
Am I really hungry?
If the answer was “no” I had a glass of water and took just about 3 min trying to discover what am I really hungering for? Usually feeling hungry kept coming from POWERLESSNESS and frustaration just those 2 made me want to eat food!
Food always understands just like a glass of wine is always an answer for some😉
Recognising which emotions drive me to eat,helped in finding a better “coping habit” than food.
1. I walked lots last week
2. I meditated more
3. I listened to more podcasts about life and religion
4. Fruit was my candy, I allowed myself lots of it!
5. I did all my assignments for my coursework.
6. Gave all I can to my family and I cherished every minute of that time!
Now my friend lets practise this together😉
Practising self compassion can feel very uncomfortable at the beginning because we are all grownups and we always care more for others then ourselves. However, I really want you to think about few simple words you tell people you love, to help them feel better and post it right below👇👇👇
These are those words you can tell yourself when you really struggle with about anything from eating 5 doughnuts in one seating and feeling guilty about it to feeling sad, angry or ashamed about something!
Please, tell me what are the words you would use to help people you love the most?